Accept one Another

Accept one another, then, just as Christ accepted you, in order to bring praise to God. -ROMANS 15:7

Christ was sent here to speak the words of God and to help us overcome our human flaws. He did not judge any one person by their faults because He knew that the people were of God's creation and therefore it was necessary to have imperfections. Our ultimate goal in life on this Earth is to become as Christ was. By judging your spouse (as well as others) for their imperfections, no matter how reverent you are on Sundays or how biblicly learned you are, you will come no closer to Christ. God gave us the covenent of marriage that we may learn and be closer to Him. When we have a Godly marriage, we are glorifying God by saying "We as a couple believe and heed your words. Show us what we need to keep a holy union with eachother that we may serve you better."

This is principle is one that should already be implied when getting married or while you are already married. However, it seems that for alot of people it is one of the hardest things to swallow. Your spouse at first may seem to have weird little habits that you are not used to, or perhaps thier way of going about doing things is not exactly the way you prefer. Alot of couples run into this problem and constantly fight about "the right way" of doing things.

Lets face it... if we were all perfect, God would not have put us on this Earth. God set us here because we are imperfect beings that need His guidance to become perfect. God ordained marriage as a covenant and he also kept our imperfections in mind. Let us love one another, for love comes from God. (1 John 4:7)When you marry the spouse God has chosen for you, He sets it up that your flaws will be beneficial to your spouse and vice versa. By that I mean if your spouse has some flaw or annoying habit, God wants you to learn patience by learning how to deal with it. God states in Corinthians that he specifically put you in marriage to your spouse to deal with interesting and sometimes difficult times, but he lets you know that if you believe in Him, your marriage will be a Godly one. But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you.1 Corinthians 7:28 (King James Version)

Perhaps it is you that are too uptight and God needed to put that flaw in your life so you may learn to loosen up and relax. Your partner should compliment your abilities and mimic your flaws. What you see as irritating, may just be your insecurity of not ever experiencing what they think is normal and God may see that you need that in your life as a catalyst to coming closer to who He really made you to be. By learning to accept your spouse for who they are and realize that is was your very same God that made them that way, your marriage will be a fruitful one. So perhaps whenever you start to see a fault on thier side, think to yourself that it is a test coming from God. He gave you faults too, and lay blame on your spouse is not what He had intended.